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What a Postpartum Doula Does

Sunday, September 19th, 2010

Your postpartum doula to the rescue!

After your baby is born you will need support.You will be recovering from birth, learning how to breastfeed and learning to care for your new baby all at the same time.  Where will you get the support you need? Some new moms get it from their family: their mothers, mothers-in-law, sisters, etc. Some get it from their religious community. Some get if from their friends who are already mothers. Others hire a postpartum doula.

Postpartum doulas are there to help you recover from birth and integrate being a mom into your life. They help assure breastfeeding success. They help you rest and recover and assist you with baby basics. They answer your questions. Many questions revolve around “is this normal?” They bring you meals and do some light housework — usually laundry. They aren’t maids or house cleaners. You can hire a house cleaner for less.

Postpartum doulas help you avoid postpartum depression. They support you as you mother. then they wean themselves away from you and leave you mothering like a champ!

Choosing Your Doula

Saturday, September 18th, 2010

How do you know she is right for you and your birth? In our book: Doulas’ Guide to Birthing Your Way, we go into detail about choosing your birth team. When choosing your doula, here are a few things to keep in mind:

Your doula should be:

– someone who comforts you.

– someone who realizes that it is your birth.

– someone who looks forward to attending your birth. It shouldn’t be a chore or burden.

– someone you can build a touch and trust relationship with.

– someone whose experience you value.

– someone who realizes that you must feel right about having her as your doula.

As doulas we all have had friends or fellow doulas who chose someone else to be their doula. Your doula should understand that picking her is a very personal choice — and the choice is yours!

Becoming a Doula

Friday, September 17th, 2010

If you are interested in becoming a doula, one question you should ask yourself is: do you and your partner want a doula for your own births? I have known women who became birth doulas and then became pregnant. Those pregnant doulas who didn’t want a doula to attend their births quit after a short time.

Why? If you aren’t convinced of the worth of a doula attending your own birth, you aren’t passionate enough about doulas to sustain your practice. Or, if your partner doesn’t want you to have a doula, he won’t be able to support your practice strongly enough for you to continue. Either way, if you don’t wish to have a doula at your own birth, how do you recommend yourself as a doula to other moms?

Write a Birth Story

Sunday, August 29th, 2010

photo by Sebastien Fauvel

Every birth is a story. I write a birth story for each birth I attend. In each story the mom is the heroine and the dad or partner is the supporting hero. The doula is the assistant and the recorder. She notices all the details which the mom can’t notice while she does the work of birthing her baby. Birth stories are riveting, especially  for the mother and I always hope that the baby will be interested in hearing the story when he is older.

A woman’s hopes, fears, decisions and one of the strongest moments of her life are told in a birth story. A new life’s beginning are the details of a birth story. It is the beginning of a biography. I think every baby should have one.

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