Easily access to birth control methods is a relatively recent event for humanity. For most of our history, events unfolded and families grew and mothers and fathers accepted new nurslings. These days, many parents have waited until they both decided it was time to have a baby. This makes the decision almost as difficult as deciding whom to marry. Should we have a child now? Are we financially ready? Is it the right time in our lives? Is our relationship secure? If we already have one child, are we prepared to take on a second…
When you have to choose and decide, it makes the whole process much more ponderous. Are you justified in proposing to be new parents? Will you be any good at it? Questions abound. Now you both have to feel the same way at the same time.
Because all this planning is new to our species, people are postponing marriage and parenthood. Men are feeling less stress than women, whose biology is more constraining. Our fertile years are shorter than men’s.
Every child is a wonderful blessing and a new person you can love. Each is an entirely new friend in your life, someone to grow with, someone to appreciate. Remember, they start small, so that you can grow with them.